I’ve just recently moved from Romania to Mexico City (11000 KM) to spend 6 beautiful months with my angel, Adriana.
I didn’t have a place to stay so I looked for a room to rent close to where Adriana works. I found a nice-ish place less than a week before I arrived and hoped for the best.
Upon arriving, the owner told me that “You have 6 days to make up your mind whether you want to stay here or not.”
In that moment, that sounded like the nicest thing she could have said and I did not think about the motivation she had to make such an offer.
Needless to say, the room was not what I expected. I was given a place on the roof (literally), with the bathroom outside and, if I would want to cook/eat in the kitchen, I would need to use the exterior staircase to do so. (which is not pleasant if it’s raining 🙂 )
Because I did not have any other place to call my own in Mexico City, I started asking around for places to stay, thinking that if I don’t find anything in 6 days, I would simply pay the rent and stay where I am for the 6 months I’m visiting.
Just 4 days later, I ended up being kicked out of the house and asked for 10% of the monthly rent. At that time I still was not ready to move to another place, but she did not seem to mind. 🙂
I understood her point and agreed to pay the 10%. At least I did, until I found out that someone from the house was eating out of the food I left in the common refrigerator, with their verbal permission.
Avoid negative discussions
You can imagine that the entire situation was unfavorable for both parties. I managed to keep my calm, but that does not mean I enjoyed it at all.
Everything could have been simply avoided if we would have just sat down and written a simple contract containing all of the above in clear terms.
Just to give a brief example:
– 6 days to take a decision. On day 6 the full payment for 2 months needs to be made.
– for each day before day 6, will be payed.
– anyone has access to whatever is in the refrigerator.
We write a contract, we re-read it, put the date, agree on the terms, everyone implied signs it and is given a copy.
Simple. It takes less than 30 minutes and, if someone has a pre-written contract, it takes less than 5 minutes. 🙂
But sometimes it’s personal
Do I suggest you apply the same method with friends and family?
Why not? What does anyone have to lose? Everyone is clear with the terms and useless conflict over “what has been said” is avoided.
If it’s written, it takes on a life of its own. It acts like a third-party, it’s objective and does not take sides. It just is. 🙂
A great real life example of this is when someone asks you for a loan. Money or other things. It probably happens to most of us. We loaned someone something and barely or even never saw it back. 🙂
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not, in any way, suggesting that you do not trust people. On the contrary, I recommend you let go and trust others. If they prove to be untrustworthy, you still have the option of moving on with your life. 🙂
The person that convinced me about the usefulness of this way of thinking is Mr. Benjamin Franklin within his amazing autobiography.
Try it and bring more clarity to all of your affairs, whether they be personal or business. 🙂
Creating a better tomorrow!