If you’re reading this, you already have this skill, but are you taking conscious steps towards improving it? Come to think of it, everyone has this skill, at one level or the other, but most people never even bother to master it. Why? Well, I think that the main reason is that they have no idea of how much it affects their lives!
The quality of your life is the quality of your communication, with yourself and others
– Tony Robbins
Think about it, is communication not an indispensable skill within our lives? We use it continuously, whether we want to or not. Many times you don’t need to say anything, people can see what you feel. Why? Because of the communication you have with yourself in those moments.
Sadly, most of us do not realise the potential of this universal tool and so we never really take the time to master it. What can this skill provide us with, when mastered?
Communication takes three forms: verbal, non-verbal and written. Though studies have shown that 70% on communication is non-verbal, they were talking about interpersonal/live communication, without taking into consideration today’s super-connected world.
I don’t know about you, but most of my working hours I find myself sending messages or emails, writing articles or papers, making plans, reading or discussing ideas and so on.
Good communicators have an obvious advantage. People like it when you what to (and what not to) say at the right time, when you know how to communicate your emotions or describe your ideas in a way that they can understand.
What does this mean for you? Better work opportunities, faster ascension within your career, the support of other like-minded people, etc. Become a master communicator and there will be few things you cannot have.
Clarity is power, or so I’ve heard. I believe that the best relationships are built on a strong foundation of mutual trust which is achieved through effective communication.
Many studies have been conducted on the impact that our relationships have on our lives. It is currently believed that over 85% of our success (or failure) is determined by our relationships… and I sort of agree.
Think about it, opportunities come in the form of relationships. A new life-long friendship, a client, a job, a business partner or even the person you’ll marry, all happen because of how you conduct your relationships.
With every investment we make towards improving our communication skills, we increase the quality of our lives on every level. The opposite is also true, fill your relationships with so-called “negative vibes” and expect problems to follow on your footsteps.
Also, let’s not forget that, though you can be extremely successful in the outer world, you can still be unhappy within ourselves and if there is one constant within your life, that’s you.
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Haven’t we all seen or heard of ultra-successful successful people that are unhappy? Some of them even commit suicide. Why?… Why would someone that apparently has it all just decide to take their life?
Again, it all comes down to communication. Not the one we have with others, no. I’m talking about the conversations we have with ourselves. What good is a million dollars if you worry all day (and night) about things like: “What if someone steals it?!” or “Taxes?! Again?!”
Someone with much less than you have right now could be much more fulfilled. The key here is to be grateful for what you do have and see everything else as life’s challenges, a journey that you have been blessed to go on.
As an old American Indian story goes:
An grandmother was trying to teach her grandson about life:
A fight is going on inside me, he said to the boy. It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.
One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandmother: Which wolf will win?
The old woman simply replied:
The one you feed…
If you ever feel low, for any reason, change the conversation that’s going on in your head. Find the specific words or phrases that keep repeating in your mind, but do not serve you, and then replace them.
Struggles are a part of life. Everyone has their own. It’s not our struggles that make us special or unique (though it feel like that sometimes), but rather how we face them. Become a master of communication and reap the joys of a truly fulfilled life.
The truth of the matter is what we all know to be true, at one level or another. Nothing changes until we do. So let’s make it happen.
I wish you more opportunities, amazing friendships and a strong white wolf!
Creating a better tomorrow,